You deserve a satisfying, passionate, committed relationship full of trust, security, intimacy, and affection. Are you:
I can help you create a healthy love life full of intimacy, connection and satisfaction… or help you figure out if it’s time to leave. Wishing and hope your partner will change, or your relationship will be better, is not going to create change. Identifying your core patterns and attachment styles may be the first step to transform your love life.
Discovering your patterns and your partner’s patterns are key to developing a deep and loving relationship. Love comes in many forms. Happy relationships can be the most amazing experiences in the world, but growing love and navigating communications is not something we are taught in school, and many people did not have the role models to reference. I believe in science and data, which I bring into our work together…
Core to the understanding of healthy relationships is John Gottmans, The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. They are Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling. While most relationships will have some of these, healthy relationships don’t use them nearly as often.
Attachment theory, developed by Bowlby and Ainsworth found that the nature in which infants get their needs met by their parents significantly contributes to their “attachment strategy” throughout their lives.
Your attachment style can very well explain why your relationships fail or succeed, who you are attracted to and why you experience certain emotions when meeting a new partner. The good news is that your attachment style can change over time — although it’s slow and difficult.
There are variations within that including anxious-avoider and other combinations. Uncovering your style and the style of the people you are in a relationship to can be mind-blowing!
According to George Pratt and Peter Lambrou, there are seven core limiting “I am…” statements that almost all self-defeating beliefs originate from and they are:
Additional influences include Compassionate Communication with Marshal Rosenberg, Neurolinguistic Programming techniques, the work of anthropologist and human behavior researcher Helen Fisher along with, David Deida, spiritual teacher on masculine and feminine polarities and intimate unions, along with and many more wonderful authors and leaders in the field of love and relationships.
Love and relationships can be hard. People have heartbreaks that they carry around for decades from childhood, from an unexpected ending or an existing relationship or after a divorce. If you are holding onto pain and can’t let it go, and it’s preventing you from moving forward with your life, I can help!
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